Last week at the beach, Dan & Lana headed off together for a bit,
so this guy and I had a treat and talked for a while.
He was telling me about someone yelling,
and how he doesn't like yelling.
Here's the rest of the conversation.
I wish I could freeze this in my memory forever!
Me: I know you don't like it when people raise their voices. Do I yell?
(knowing the answer, but wanting his perspective)
Me: I'm sorry. Do you feel like I yell a lot?
Tucker: Well....you don't yell physically a lot, but sometimes you yell spiritually.
Me: Oh. What does that mean, to yell spiritually?
Tucker: You know, like when you are mad and you get very very quiet. I can feel it in my spirit.
Me: I see. So it's when I'm upset but instead of yelling out loud, I don't talk at all. You don't like that.
Tucker: NO! I don't like it all when you yell spiritually.
Me: So if I'm feeling frustrated, and I want to cool down so I don't speak to you in anger, what should I do? I thought I was doing the right thing by being quiet.
Tucker: No, mom. You have to just talk to me about it right away, but calmly.
Me: Hmmm. Ok. But there are times when you aren't listening to me well, and so I'm feeling frustrated. What do I do then?
Tucker: Welllll.....I guess....take a nap. That helps.